This morning God has me praying for relationships.
These are trying times when many families are being challenged by financial losses, business closures, illness, child care challenges, and kids that are stressed to their maximum capacity.
Here is a truth that I learned in my own life and saw it ring true in thousands of families I was involved with in nearly two decades as a divorce lawyer……
The marriage is usually ‘over’ five years before one person packs up and leaves.
The person who was oblivious, then wakes up and wants to ‘fix’ things, but there is truly no remnant, no part of the relationship that is salvageable.
Your spouse is not your enemy and the parent of your children can and should be your greatest ally. If you are “stuck” together right now, thank God for that and rediscover why you loved that person in the first place.
Everything about the family is a model of the Kingdom of Heaven. We are not orphans, we are first born sons who share in Christ’s inheritance. We are the beloved Bride of Christ whom He never stops pursuing.
Ask God to put His model to work in your family, then contend. Contend in prayer, contend in the throne room of Your Father for help and supernatural strength and wisdom that only He can give.
It is later than you think and your marriage is in a much more precarious situation than you realize.
Trust me.
Seventeen years I sat with people who were getting a divorce. Some who were filing it and some who were just responding. The grief and sadness and sense of failure is immense on both sides. AND, the one thing that was similar in every case was the shock and surprise that they were there, sitting in my office.
No one thinks it will happen to them. I certainly did not.
In seventeen years, only TWICE, two times out of the thousands of persons who came to me for help, only two said, “I knew it would end like this”
No one thinks it can happen to them. We believe the vows when we take them. We have faith in ourselves and think we can beat the odds. We all know the odds, and we get married anyways.
Here it it, the big secret, how to avoid divorce from an ex-divorce lawyer…….
Believe that it can happen to you
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